Get a mat or something else that allows you and your partner to lay down in a nurturing position (holding each other comfortably).
Decide who is going to be the sender/confider (the one who speaks first) and who is going to be receiver/confidant (the healer).
It may be helpful to play soft, relaxing music in the background. One PAIRS' favorite is James Galway's "Songs of the Seashore."
For the confider, as you lay there, reflect on an emotional allergy of yours, something that your partner does or does not do that triggers a strong emotional response in you.
Choose one that you are willing to confide about to potentially discover more about its origins and heal it.
For the listener, your role is to listen to your partner with empathy, continue to embrace your partner throughout the exercise, and, in Part III (below), speak the words requested.
For the confider, as you prepare to begin, become aware of your breathing. Very intentionally allow your breathing to flow very gently and easily. Take a deep breath and let it out. Another. And another. With each deep breath, if there are any tight places in your body, allow them to loosen as you slowly exhale. And then allow your breath to flow regularly and easily.
When you are ready, complete (aloud to your partner) each of the following sentence stems in sequence:
Continue to embrace each other for about ten minutes as you allow yourselves time to either hold each other quietly or speak gently with each other about what you're discovering.
Embrace for about five minutes as you appreciate each other, the gift of confiding and listening.