The Mission of PAIRS is to teach those attitudes, emotional understandings and behaviors that nurture and sustain healthy relationships and to make this knowledge broadly available on behalf of a safer, saner, more loving world.

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PAIRS Museum Tour Exercise

Past Joys

To take a Museum Tour of Past Joys:

1. Sit directly opposite each other with your hands touching. 
2. Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine yourself in a large room, seeing or recalling past joys and celebrations. Each of your past joys is a picture on the wall. 
3. Imagine those pictures in your mind's eye and look at each one. 
4. Choose a picture that you'd like to share.
5. Open your eyes and share a picture from your museum by completing each of these sentences to your partner:

When I look at the pictures in my museum:

• I remember ...
• What was good for me ...
• What I enjoyed most ...
• I loved ...
• I wish ...

As the listener, while your partner is sharing a joy, just listen with empathy. When your partner is finished, embrace him or her and say something like, "Thank you, I'm glad you shared that with me."

After one partner has confided a joy from their museum, change roles and repeat the process.

PAIRS Museum Tour of Past Hurts and Disappointments.